THE LIES Couple’s
Book by Dr. Chris Thurman
Marriage is one of the most difficult challenges we go
through in life. Especially when we have high expectations of our spouse and
when our spouse disappoints or hurts us, we often complain to God and demand
that he miraculously change them or if things don’t get better, that He will
give us permission to find someone else.
What are LIES made up from?
Our FAULTIY BELIEFS, ATTITUDE, AND EXPECATATIONS
Faulty beliefs are flawed ways of thinking that can come
from our back ground to include the way we were raised by our parents, our
childhood, religion and culture.
Our attitude and expectation are important in determining
the kind or relationship we have as a husband and wife. The right attitudecan help you create a
loving marriage and the wrong attitude can help you create an unloving one.
The 3 ENEMIES of right thinking: YOU, THE WORLD AND SATAN
LIE # 1….
And they LIVED happily ever after. The PURPOSE of marriage is
to make me HAPPY.
TRUTH: We can’t make being in love and feeling HAPPY the
main focus of our marriage.
WHY: Because being in love and feeling happy in marriage are
tied to how our spouse treats us. Even the most loving husband or wife will
treat you badly on occasions. ALL of us
will at times wound our spouse by mistreating or verbally offending them.
TRUE PURPOSE for marriage according the word of GOD is…
COMPANIONSHIP- It is not good for man to be alone Gen 2:18
CHILDREN: Be fruitful and increase in number to rule the
earth in the image of God. Gen 1:28
CHANGE (Sharpening)to help each other become a better
person for the work of Christ. To be mature and complete, not lacking nothing. Proverb 27:7 and James 1:4.